We as writers, no matter if we freelance or only write fiction or non-fiction, are quite a unique group. We are the only profession that constantly deals with rejection. Every day. There is no telling how many rejections can land in your inbox at any given time. It’s frustrating and disheartening at times. But what do you do after that rejection? Here are some tips to restoring your attitude after rejection.
Don’t take it personally-This can be very hard at times, but seriously, it is not you. In times like these, you have to remember your ‘why’. Why do you write? What is your ultimate goal? This should help give you some perspective. We all get disheartened, but I always remind myself that I’m one pitch closer to a ‘yes’ and that this publication or web site was not the best home for my work.
Let it out-Definitely let your emotions out. If you are a crier, cry. If you are a screamer, scream. Whatever you need to do to get the pent up frustration out, do it. Take a walk, go to a hard core exercise class, call a friend, etc. Reach out to your writing peers for support, this way you know you’re not all alone.
Treat yourself-When you pour your heart, soul, blood, sweat, and tears into an article or project, it can be extremely depressing when it comes back to you with that lovely “Thank you for submitting to XYZ but…” that we are all familiar with. In times like these, go treat yourself. Get that massage, have your nails done, go out for an expensive dinner, eat the whole pint of ice cream. (I won’t tell, I promise.)
Look at your accomplishments-If you haven’t, start a bulletin board in your office with acceptance emails, inspiring quotes, book covers, print copies of articles you have had published, etc. This way you can always look and see how far you have come and all you have accomplished.
Move forward-This is probably is the most important thing to do next. Take a day and step away from your rejected piece and then go back in and find another place to pitch it.
Remember, rejection is not a reflection of you. It’s a sign of better things to come. Hold your head high and keep moving on. The perfect home for your next piece or book is just around the corner.