Rejection: It Is Not A Reflection Of You.

As writers we all face rejection. It is practically a way of life in this industry sometimes. But how do you handle rejection in other areas of your life? Do you take it to heart or rise above it and move on? I wrote this post today on my view of this subject. I hope it encourages you, inspires you, and makes you realize that it is not a reflection of you personally.

Rejection. Such an ugly word. I have dealt with this my whole life, in one way or another. From the day I was born, really. I was born premature and had various procedures done on me. My doctors and parents were constantly on alert as to weather I was going to keep fighting for my life. They never knew from day to day weather I was going to be okay or if I was going to reject one more procedure and just give up. I chose to live.

My Dad was a narcissist, so growing up was not easy. He was always on me about one thing or another. I could never do anything right. It could be anything from how I swept a floor to my grades in school. All that ever came out of his mouth was negativity and rejection. I would never amount to anything. Over the years, I have had to remind myself that his rejection is not a reflection on me. I don’t take it personally anymore. His parents did everything for him so they are the ones who created the monster.

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After my Mom and I moved out of state, it took me awhile but I eventually gained my self-esteem and self-confidence. Yet, I was still attracted to rejection. I was constantly drawn to men who had issues. Every guy I dated lied to me, cheated on me, and then rejected me. For the longest time I took it personally. There was always someone or something that came along that was better than me. I came to expect it. It wasn’t until my husband came along and made me understand that it wasn’t me. I’ve come to realize that being rejected in my previous relationships wasn’t necessarily a reflection on me, there were various catalysts at play. Thanks to my wonderful, loving husband, I have moved past all that. I’m so thankful to have found a man who finds me priceless.

Still, at the age of 35, I’m still dealing with rejection. I am a writer, rejection is something I face on a daily basis. However, I do my best not to let it get me down. I have my days, I’m not going to lie. However, I have had articles published on and off since I was fifteen years old so it is something I’m used to. Most of the time I take it as a way to grow and improve. I have never received a blatantly ugly rejection in regards to my abilities. I take the advice given and move on. In doing what I love, this is the best rejection I have ever experienced.

If you are out there experiencing rejection in one way or another, don’t despair. Take a step back and look at all angles. Even though it may feel like it, it may not be a reflection on you. As I have learned, there are sometimes various circumstances involved. Take a deep breath, evaluate the feedback and then move forward. Always remember. Rejection, it is not a reflection of you.  Don’t you know the best is yet to come?

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Indie Author Day

Calling all indie authors! The first Indie Author Day is coming up on October 8th.  Libraries across the country will be hosting indies to come and promote their work, participate in panels and network with each other. This will also be a great way for library patrons to check out your work. I am excited to participate at the Morton library in my area. I’m ordering my books today and starting to get my price list a few other things in order.

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For more information on Indie Author Day and how you can participate, check out the links below from Indie Author News.

Yes, Virginia, There Really Is an Indie Author Day

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Make plans to get out there, meet some fellow authors and have a great time! Even if you aren’t an author, go check it out anyway. You never know, you may find your next favorite writer.

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Fall Into Some New And Different Reads This Season

Ready to fall into some new and different reads this season? Summer is winding down and the fall season is upon us. Soon school will be in full swing, life will get even more crazy and  it will feel like the gusty winds of fall will be blowing us everywhere in our daily routines. But then there will be those times when things slow down a little bit.  That small snippet of the afternoon about an hour before the kids get out. Or that hour just before you go to bed. It’s time to settle down with a good book. You took some of your friends advice and picked up one or two of the books she was reading over the summer but it wasn’t quite what you were looking for. My friend, it’s time to fall into some new and different reads this season.

 Do You Like To Read?

For Such A Time As This by Candace A Jones-If you are a woman of God trying to figure out your purpose, trying to come to terms with your past and wondering if you have totally lost God’s plan for your life, this book is for you. Candace speaks boldly of her past, her journey to redemption and her hopes for the future. A very refreshing read.

Everlasting Life by Kristy Phillips-Are you walking through life feeling desperate and broken? Do you feel like you have done so many terrible things that God could never love you? Or that you could never return to him again? Everlasting Life will help you reconnect with the Lord and heal your soul.

Phenomenal Dad by Cruz Santana-If you are looking for some spot on parenting advice in the aftermath of a divorce, this is your guide. Full of eye opening revelations and practical advice, like getting past the sting of despair while staying in your kids lives, how to protect yourself in future court proceedings and different ways to connect with your children that take little to no effort no matter what your circumstances. Cruz Santana writes from experience, she is a divorced mother of seven while battling stage four lymphoma. Pick up this book and help the single man in your life become a phenomenal Dad. Or learn to become a phenomenal Dad yourself.

Fall Into Some New And Different Reads This Season.

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Looking For More Different Reads?

Seasons Of Darkness-Belinda G. Buchanan-Ethan Harrington is forced to grow up quickly after his mother’s suicide. Living in the aftermath of his family’s ticking time bomb of an existence, he builds a wall around his heart. Now at sixteen he turns to the one thing he has seen his father find solace in again and again, bringing to the surface an inner demon that won’t let him go. Belinda weaves an intriguing tapestry of a relationship between father and son and the complexities that test their fragile union.

After All Is Said And Done-Belinda G. Buchanan-What if you found out the child you love more than anything wasn’t yours? After All Is Said And Done is the continuation of Ethan Harrington’s life. Now thirty-four years old and with a baby on the way, he is still trying to forgive his wife Jessica for cheating on him with a colleague.  Once his son arrives the hurt starts to heal but he finds out all too soon the secret his wife has been hiding from him.  Leaving his marriage in pieces and his sanity in a questionable state, Ethan has to face his borderline alcoholism and a past he has spent his whole life trying to forget.

What Haunts Me by Margaret Millmore- George is plagued by dreams of ghosts who wander in the midst of the living, infecting their victims with deformities and disease. A deep rooted instinct emerges in George, knowing he can kill these monsters and heal their victims. Haunted by suppressed memories, his sanity starts to slip as he is consumed with this new responsibility. This new path will lead him to both friends and allies but also enemies he could never have imagined.

Fall into some new and different reads this season.

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Tis The Season For A New And Different Read.

Lithium Dreams And Melancholy Sunrise-Carrie Lowrance- Recently go through a breakup? Have you been cheated on? Hopelessly in love with someone who either doesn’t love you back or doesn’t know you exist? Then let this deep, eerie book of poems ease your emotionally battered heart and soul.

The Safety Of Objects-Carrie Lowrance- If you are looking for a different way to view objects in the world, check out this book of poems.

Something For The Kids.

Don’t Eat Your Boogers (You’ll Turn Green)-Carrie Lowrance- Goober McGee has a bad habit. He eats his boogers! His older brother, Sludge, warns him he could come down with a case of Boogeritis. Then one day Goober wakes up and he’s green everywhere! How does he get rid of it? In the process of getting better again, Goober learns to try new foods, becomes a role model for his peers and, most importantly, promises to never eat his boogers again!

If you are truly looking for something totally different, take a look at the books on this list. I guarantee you won’t find the same old, same old.  Fall is coming and so will the rainy, windy days and nights. So curl up and fall into some new and different reads this season.

 

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Some Of My Favorite Resources For Indie Authors

Today I decided to write a post about some of my favorite resources for Indie authors. I have used all of them myself. The companies and people that I am recommending have been a pleasure to work with.  There are a lot of decisions to be made when you are an indie author just starting out. Even thinking about how your book is going to come together can be very intimidating and stressful. I hope this list will be a good guide to get you started on the right foot.

Print or Ebook

There are many different companies and small publishers that do print and e-book publishing. For me, I chose the following two companies, Smashwords and Createspace.

Smashwords– I chose Smashwords because I saw a segment on a CBS morning show about author Jasinda Wilder getting her start on the e-book platform. To become a ‘Smasher’ all you have to do is set up an account with your bio, an author interview and your books. What I like most about Smashwords is they distribute your books not only to U.S. Retailers like Barnes & Noble and iBooks, they also distribute your books to foreign countries as well. This way you truly get a worldwide approach. I also like that they assign ISBN’s  which relieves another headache in the publishing process. Other perks to Smashwords include the coupon manager, pricing feature and preorder  features. Smashwords also runs a Summer/Winter sale in July where you can adjust the price of your books to attract more readers. All in all, this is a great platform.

Createspace– I chose Createspace for my print books after reading about another indie author who used them. Once again, all you have to do to get started is set up an account. The process for uploading your book is pretty easy and the tutorial will guide you step by step. They also assign ISBN’s and keep track of payments.

 My Favorite Resources

SelfPubBookCovers– I use this site for my book covers. I think their artists are insanely talented and prices are easy on the wallet. The lowest price I have seen is $69 and the highest is over $100. When you buy your cover you get two files, one for your e-book and one for the print version. The best part is once you buy your cover, it is removed from the site, never to be sold again. They also have awesome customer service, I called once and talked to Rob and he was very helpful and nice. This is one of my favorite resources for indie authors.

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Formatting

When  I first started looking for a person to format my book, the first place I looked was on Mark’s List on Smashwords. Mark Coker is the founder of Smashwords and he put together a very helpful list of people that format books and do cover art.  After contacting several people, I decided to use Maureen Cutajar of GoPublished.

GoPublished– I am so glad I chose to use Maureen. She does an absolutely amazing job, is professional and courteous, and has a very good turnaround on her work. She is truly a pleasure to work with. When I use her services, I get the bundle offer which is for fiction projects only. The bundle includes your ebook in Kindle and epub formats, a Smashwords ready version and a print ready PDF. This also includes custom designed chapter headings, drop caps and fleurons. This package starts at $200.

More Resources For Indie Authors.

Illustrations

JHIllustrations– For my third book, Don’t Eat Your Boogers (You’ll Turn Green), I used Jeanine Henning for my book cover and illustrations. Jeanine is very talented and is a lot of fun to work with. She does book covers for all genres as well as illustrations for children’s books. She is also very professional and gets work done in a very timely manner.

These are the resources I have used during my authoring journey. I hope my list of resources for indie authors is a help to you.

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Life Keeps On Driving: Through The Pain

Hello Everyone,

I’ve been working on my first novel which will be out in 2017 and am very excited about it. I thought I would kind of give you a sneak peek about what it’s about. The title is called Through The Pain. Country music superstar Grayson Hutchinson has it all-a whirlwind tour, his tenth number one hit and his second platinum album. He is sitting on top of the world. But all of a sudden his world is torn out from underneath him and his life is changed in an instant. MaCrae Torrinson is a chef to the celebrities, touring with some of the greatest names in music. She also carries a torch for Grayson that will never go out. In one freak event, her world is also crumbling around her.

Through The Pain: Coming in 2017

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Follow the lives of Grayson and MaCrae as the events in their lives keep driving them Through The Pain and to each other.

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How I Became An Indie Author

Hello,

You have decided that you want to become an indie author but you don’t know how to get started. There is so much information out there it can get overwhelming. I wrote an article awhile ago about how I did it and all the questions I had to answer before I even got started. Read and enjoy, I hope it helps.

How I Became An Indie Author

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A Work In Progress.

Hello Everyone,

I’m excited to report that I am currently working on my next book. It will be my first full length book in the romance genre. I already have my cover done  and my editor lined up for when it is finished. I’m only about a quarter of the way through so it truly is a work in progress. My friend and (amazing) fellow author, Belinda G Buchanan offered to beta read my early chapters and offered some awesome feedback. If you’re not familiar with her you need to check her out. She is a very amazing and talented writer.  The story is about a country singer who loses it all and his journey back to the spotlight.  It is flowing very well so far with a lot of twists and turns ahead. I don’t have an official release date but I will keep you posted. In the meantime, take care.

-Carrie 🙂

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The Story Behind Don’t Eat Your Boogers

You may be wondering how in the world I came up with the story Don’t Eat Your Boogers (You’ll Turn Green) and what the back story is. My day job is working in a daycare which is a great place for an author. I have cultivated various ideas for both books for children and adults in the past six years.  Throughout my career, I have held various positions. One day when I was in the two year old room one of the kids was eating their boogers. I can remember my co-teacher firmly but warmly telling this child not to do that. Immediately when she said this, “You’ll Turn Green” was added on in my thoughts. That is when the light bulb clicked that I should write a story about this. But life got busy and I didn’t think any more about it.

The Story Behind Don’t Eat Your Boogers.

It wasn’t until I took a freelance writing course last year and I had to pick an option for my last assignment. I immediately chose ‘children’s short story’ because Boogers was starting to haunt me. So I sat down and wrote it and revised and revised and revised. In the end, my instructor really enjoyed it and said I should have it published. It made me feel really good that someone outside of my sphere of influence truly enjoyed my work. In the spring of last year I submitted it to several magazines only to get rejection letters. No worries, I would just keep trying. In the midst of this, I decided to take it in and read it to the oldest class in our center. They absolutely loved it and sat completely still through the whole reading-without illustrations! A few told me afterwards that they wanted it in a book. Knowing they are my most honest and true audience, I knew that eventually I would have to self-publish it.

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And here we are, a little over a year later. Don’t Eat Your Boogers (You’ll Turn Green) will be released on November 2, 2015. I have been proudly showing off my cover image to a few of my co-workers. One of our older kids asked what I had and I told him that he would find out in a few months. He responded by asking me if it was about that story I read them. I told him ‘yes’ and that by November it would be a real book. I thought his eyes were going to pop out of his head when he responded with a gasp of, “Really?”. Needless to say, I can’t wait to take it in and show them. That is the story behind Don’t Eat Your Boogers. So when cold and flu season rolls around again or your kids are just flat out picking their noses, remind them Don’t Eat Your Boogers (You’ll Turn Green).

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I am so excited to share my first promotional illustration.

Hello everyone. I am having an absolute blast in this process of bringing my children’s book to life. I have an amazing lady who formats my books (Maureen Cutajar at www.gopublished.com) and a fabulous artist (Jeanine Henning at www.jhillustrations.wordpress.com) who does my illustrations. I am so excited to show you my first promotional illustration for Don’t Eat Your Boogers (You’ll Turn Green).Scene 1_Color-Promo Illustration

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