How do we overcome rejection? We all go through it throughout our lives. We get rejected over all kinds of things-dates, car loans, jobs. I’ve been rejected by ex-boyfriends. One time I got rejected because I didn’t have any credit when applying for a car loan.
I’ve applied to work at Barnes & Noble, one of my favorite places in the whole world and have been rejected at least twice. For most people, it happens. However, when you’re a writer it happens all the time.
I pitch and don’t get the assignment. I send in a rough draft and need to make revisions after the first round. Sometimes people leave a negative review on a book.
At times it can get brutal and it can be so easy to want to give up. How do you look past it all and overcome rejection? Here are my top 10 ways to overcome rejection.
1. Don’t take it personally
Most of the time when we get rejected, it is not personal. The article you wrote my not have been the right angle. The job you wanted so badly may not have been a good fit for you.
The house or apartment you wanted may have put too much strain on your finances in the long run. There are a thousand different reasons why we get rejected and none of them are personal. How do we overcome it? We remember that it wasn’t a good fit for us and move on.
2. Look at all your accomplishments
I keep a bulletin board that has acceptance letters, my book covers, inspirational quotes and scriptures hanging by my desk. Whenever I’m having an off day I look at it and see all the things I have accomplished. It makes that rejection seem not so bad.
3. Remember your next ‘Yes’ is right around the corner
When you are knee deep in a job search, searching for a place to live, looking for a significant other etc and you keep getting rejected, you must remember your next ‘Yes’ is right around the corner.
The resume you sent in today may get you that call tomorrow. The apartment or house you applied for may get you a call from the realtor next week.
That new class that your friend is going to may lead to a blind date for you or an introduction in the next few weeks. Just because something takes awhile, doesn’t mean it’s doomed.
4. Let it out
Whatever you need to do, do it. Cry it out, scream it out, laugh it out-anything goes.
5.Read about someone you admire
Look up the biography of your favorite musician, singer, author, sports figure, scientist, tech guru, and read about their struggles, trials, and rejections. This will put into perspective that you are not alone and that even the most famous of people have had to go through their share of rejection.
6. Eat an amazing meal
Go to your favorite restaurant and order your favorite thing on the menu. For example, I love Italian food so going to my favorite Italian restaurant for some lasagna always makes me feel better.
7. Eat an amazing dessert
For me, chocolate cures most anything so bring it on. I love chocolate cookies, cake, ice cream-you name it. But not all at the same time please. 🙂 Whatever your favorite sweet treat is, indulge! You will feel much better afterwards.
8. Put on some tunes
Music always makes me feel better so I put on a mix of sad and angry tunes and write. This in turn stirs my creativity which will possibly bring about my next great idea. Whatever music you choose, turn it up and let loose weather you dance to it, sing to it, or just listen.
9. Find some water
I also find I’m most creative and get lots of ideas in water. Take a bath, take a shower, or take a swim. If you’re like most creatives, new ideas will float to the top and the sunken stone of rejection will fade into the distance.
10.Talk to someone
Call a friend or family member and talk out your feelings. This will help untangle the web of lies in your head and will remind you how wonderful and talented you really are. Better yet, get together and talk things out so you can really read each other’s facial expressions and body language.
These 10 ways of overcoming rejection always work for me. Letting out my emotions through listening to music and writing, enjoying good food, and talking to good friends always makes me feel better.
It helps put things in perspective and by the next day I’m ready to put myself out there again. What are some ways you use to overcome rejection?
Please leave a comment and let me know.